We live our lives accidentally more than we live on purpose and we seldom wonder why. I was listening to a Dr. Steve Maraboli podcast titled Living Your Dream – Letting Go of Your Nightmare and Steve used an analogy of traffic; just how impatient we are with other people because we need to get to work or wherever we are going, but when we get there we just seem to chill again. What was all the impatience about? Why can we be impatient with others, yet so patient with ourselves? Have we forgotten that we are valuable?
NO, you and I are extremely valuable, we have a purpose to fulfil that only we can fulfil, each one of us is here for a very specific reason and the initial main reason is to make a difference in other people’s lives. The difference that we are called to make in the lives of others, is a difference that only we can make and no one else.
How can we define the difference we need to make?
Often we confuse this difference with charitable deeds and giving. That is only one of the aspects of the difference we need to make. The real essence starts with us seeing ourselves as valuable and being a great example to others, you are here to serve others and that is true leadership. If it was just about charitable acts you could just go and serve them and that would be admirable, but that is not what you are called to do. You cannot make a difference in the lives of others until you have made a difference in your own life.
How and where do you start?
YOU need to start with you. How worthy do you feel? Perhaps you don’t feel very worthy because YOU have not reached out to enough people in your life, and this is done in a very simple way … It’s not about giving anything but your time, you simply need to LISTEN to others and feel their pain with them. We are all fighting some battle, and feeling the pain in the lives of those we LISTEN to shows them empathy, and when they feel your empathy, they begin to motivate themselves to being a better person.
Listening is the key to unlocking the potential of others, and it is the key to unlocking your own potential. You may say that no one listens to you and therefore you cannot move on. If that is the case, then you will need to start listening to yourself – start by asking yourself what is important to you? What you would like to accomplish and what does success look like to you?
STOP being patient with yourself and impatient with others. It is time to be impatient with yourself, LISTEN to your needs and start moving in the direction of your dreams. Most of us stand in our own way. Be consistently impatient with yourself and question your own excuses and beware of friends and family – as soon as they see you have a slight potential to accomplish a little more than they have, they become jealous and they will add a few more excuses to the pile, effectively stealing your dream.
BE IMPATIENT … See you on the road to success.