The dictionary gives us the following two meaning of the word ‘Commitment’: 1) the state or quality of being dedicated to a cause, activity, etc. 2) an engagement or obligation that restricts freedom of action.
Reading and pondering those meanings, are you even surprised people find it difficult to commit? I understand life is about relationships and commitment is what causes relationships to be successful or not. Then the two questions should be asked:
- Where does commitment start? I believe commitment starts with yourself. Can you commit to the daily routine you have set for yourself? Do you getup at the time you have set your alarm for? Do you do the daily exercise you have decided to do? Do you do the chores you have decided to do in the morning or do you leave them for later? Do you leave early enough to get to work on time? Do you stick to your routine or do you deviate from it, and when you deviate is it because you have chosen to be different or have you simply found an excuse?
- Why do I find it difficult to commit? If we cannot commit to ourselves and stick to the agreements we have made with ourselves, how do we ever expect to be able to commit to anything else? Therefore our answer to the first part of the meaning of commitment would be ‘if we are able to be true and dedicated to ourselves, then quite possibly we would be able to dedicate ourselves to a cause or activity we feel strongly about’. In the case of the work environment, do we understand what the purpose is, and the purpose should most definitely not be to simply earn an income.
In the second part of the meaning, where there is an obligation that restricts our freedom. Wow that sounds heavy and if that is truly the meaning of commitment, then no wonder we have difficulty committing. Yet for some this type of restriction of freedom brings them a form of security that actually helps them to commit more.
Entrepreneurs and free thinkers are adverse to this type of thinking, as they understand that ‘Your greatest ideas of 5 years ago are now your baggage.’ Commitment has a heavy price and sometimes too much restriction.
We should very carefully consider our commitments to people, our lives and ourselves. The consequences of our decisions have long lasting effects in our lives and the lives of others.