I just had a really interesting meeting with a new associate. They mentioned the need to always make the correct impression regardless of what is really happening in our lives. Yes, whether things are great or our lives are falling apart, we need to project the right image. This may seem obvious to some, but others may view this as being fake. The reality is colleagues and strangers don’t need to know everything about us – after all the perception they have of us is the reality for them.
Why do we try to portray our lives as being different to what they are? What would we like our lives to be?
We all have the need for recognition, in fact, recognition is the single thing we need the most in our lives. Recognition gives us the sense of belonging needed as communal beings. The more recognition we get the better we feel about ourselves and then we are able to thrive.
However, if we are desperate for recognition we can find it anywhere, and this often gets us the kind of recognition that we are not looking for. What other people think of you has nothing to do with you. Of course, if you let their opinions affect you, you could suffer emotional defeat. Recognition and validation from people whom you respect and admire are what you need. Emotional validation is also a human requirement.
Where to find the right Emotional Validation – Real authentic emotional validation can only come from people who truly love you. Those who love you will not hurt you, and they have the ability to build you emotionally. Don’t bother looking for it anywhere as you will only get it from friends and family who truly value you as an individual.