What we believe is what has been handed down to us, we make these beliefs our own and we live our lives accordingly. It is a good thing to a point, but we always need to ask ourselves is that truly what we believe to be true for ourselves?
In life our success in anything can be determined by the belief we have. If our parents were successful does it make it easier for us to be successful? What of the reverse? If our parents were poor then is it easier for us to be poor? In both cases yes, if we believe that to be true.
There will always be certain beliefs that we will question and other beliefs become more difficult to challenge. For example if your parents were great athletes and you are a good athlete, then you must have inherited that ability from your parents. But what if you are a great athlete and your parents were not, was it your dedication and efforts that caused you to have faith in your ability as an athlete?
But we all know of rags to riches success stories, which means that someone was prepared to disregard the belief that had been handed down to them and take every opportunity to work hard and never give up.
This confidence that success can be yours is what is needed, together with the ability to not listen to those who like to remind you of where you came from, and what the opinion of your family or community is.
When you believe differently you are challenging the status quo (the generally accepted belief). By doing this you make others feel very uncomfortable and they will not like you, because you are showing them what is possible through dedication and hard work. They would rather be lazy and accept whatever comes their way.
Remember what people think of you is their business, not yours. Yes, too many people worry about what people think and are always looking for approval wherever they go. This herd mentality will only pull you down and force you back into your original belief system. It will not help you change and formulate a new idea of who you are and who you can become.
The real questions that you should be asking yourself are:
What is my current belief system, who gave me these beliefs that I currently live by?
What could I be doing differently right now?
What are the possibilities for success in my life, and do I need to change what I believe to be my truth?
Who influences me positively and who influences me negatively? Decide who you will listen to and who you will avoid, even if they are family.
What do you believe your success will look like?
Once you have answered these questions, you will need to work on changing the beliefs that were handed down to you, and start believing in what is possible for your life. Trust yourself, and move forward.
My wish for you is that you will find the strength to challenge existing beliefs, and the courage to discover what is true for your life, so that you may ultimately find the success that was destined to be yours.