Stop wasting your time complaining

sculpture-2275202_960_720Author: Unknown

“People visit a wise man complaining about the same problems over and over again. One day, he decided to tell them a joke and they all roared with laughter.

After a few minutes, he told them the same joke and only a few of them smiled.

Then he told the same joke for the third time, but no one laughed or smiled anymore.

The wise man smiled and said: ‘You can’t laugh at the same joke over and over. So why are you always crying about the same problem?’”

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How to find an opportunity

Rusty wheelbarrow at low tideOpportunity is defined as a time or set of circumstances that makes it possible to do something. An opportunity can only be valuable if it solves a problem or fulfils a need that exists. In other words, without a problem, there is no opportunity.

Finding an opportunity starts with identifying a need and looking for the solution. Sometimes the need is obvious, like a need to make more money. If that is the case can you help people make more money or show them a way to make more money? Once you can help people to make money the problem should be solved.

Opportunities are not always that obvious, you need to think outside the box and be far more creative in your approach. It does not have to be complicated, rather it should be simple and practical. Sometimes opportunities are in doing what others are doing, and perhaps doing it better than others do it, as the person with the ideas does not always have the best skills to implement the idea.

How do we find these opportunities? The only way to find these opportunities is to connect with people, listen to what they are saying, observe what they are doing and find out where the challenges are.

Imagine a gold rush, everyone always would like to find gold and get rich quick, but the person who is guaranteed to make consistent money is the person supplying the wheelbarrows.

Another example is the simple approach taken by a company like UBER, they did not improve the taxi industry, they simplified it. Opportunities come from realising how things can be simplified and made more efficient.

Listen, listen and listen some more, get people to share their stories with you, and observe them, so that you can find opportunities. Our learning never ends, but by listening and observing people you will always get a different perspective to the mainstream that all others are learning. This will give you the edge.

Traditionally our education systems teach us to look for gold rather than understanding that wheelbarrows are needed. We need a different kind of thinking to find real opportunities.

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Laziness won’t get you anywhere


Author: Unknown

“In ancient times, a king had his men place a boulder on a roadway. He then hid in the bushes and watched to see if anyone would move the boulder out of the way. Some of the king’s wealthiest merchants and courtiers passed by and simply walked around it.
Many people blamed the King for not keeping the roads clear, but none of them did anything about getting the stone removed.
One day, a peasant came along carrying vegetables. Upon approaching the boulder, the peasant laid down his burden and tried to push the stone out of the way. After much pushing and straining, he finally managed.
After the peasant went back to pick up his vegetables, he noticed a purse lying in the road where the boulder had been. The purse contained many gold coins and note from the King explain that the gold was for the person who removed the boulder from the road.”
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Let go of your Stresses!

screenshot 2019-01-29 at 11.09.24Author: Unknown

A psychologist walked around a room while teaching stress management to an audience. As she raised a glass of water, everyone expected they’d be asked the “half empty or half full” question. Instead, with a smile on her face, she inquired: ”How heavy is this glass of water?”

Answers called out ranged from 8 oz. to 20 oz.

She replied, “The absolute weight doesn’t matter. It depends on how long I hold it. If I hold it for a minute, it’s not a problem. If I hold it for an hour, I’ll have an ache in my arm. If I hold it for a day, my arm will feel numb and paralyzed. In each case, the weight of the glass doesn’t change, but the longer I hold it, the heavier it becomes.”

She continued, “The stresses and worries in life are like that glass of water. Think about them for a while and nothing happens. Think about them a bit longer and they begin to hurt. And if you think about them all day long, you will feel paralyzed – incapable of doing anything.”

It’s important to remember to let go of your stresses. As early in the evening as you can, put all your burdens down. Don’t carry them through the evening and into the night. Remember to put the glass down!

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Potatoes, Eggs, and Coffee Beans

screenshot 2019-01-28 at 10.25.29Author: Unknown

Once upon a time, a daughter complained to her father that her life was miserable and that she didn’t know how she was going to make it. She was tired of fighting and struggling all the time. It seemed just as one problem was solved, another one soon followed.

Her father, a chef, took her to the kitchen. He filled three pots with water and placed each on a high fire. Once the three pots began to boil, he placed potatoes in one pot, eggs in the second pot, and ground coffee beans in the third pot.

He then let them sit and boil, without saying a word to his daughter. The daughter moaned and impatiently waited, wondering what he was doing.

After twenty minutes he turned off the burners. He took the potatoes out of the pot and placed them in a bowl. He pulled the boiled eggs out and placed them in a bowl.

He then ladled the coffee out and placed it in a cup. Turning to her he asked. “Daughter, what do you see?”

“Potatoes, eggs, and coffee,” she hastily replied.

“Look closer,” he said, “and touch the potatoes.” She did and noted that they were soft. He then asked her to take an egg and break it. After pulling off the shell, she observed the hard-boiled egg. Finally, he asked her to sip the coffee. Its rich aroma brought a smile to her face.

“Father, what does this mean?” she asked.

He then explained that the potatoes, the eggs and coffee beans had each faced the same adversity– the boiling water.

The potato went in strong, hard, and unrelenting, but in boiling water, it became soft and weak.

The egg was fragile, with the thin outer shell protecting its liquid interior until it was put in the boiling water. Then the inside of the egg became hard.

However, the ground coffee beans were unique. After they were exposed to the boiling water, they changed the water and created something new.

“Which are you,” he asked his daughter. “When adversity knocks on your door, how do you respond? Are you a potato, an egg, or a coffee bean? “

Moral: In life, things happen around us, things happen to us, but the only thing that truly matters is what happens within us.

Which one are you?

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No Selling or Recruiting necessary

screenshot 2019-01-27 at 10.12.47This is the catchphrase of many online adverts these days, usually referring to online money making opportunities. What makes this phrase so attractive is that most people have a deep desire to be successfully lazy. Yes, the truth is most people would like to receive money from doing nothing. Their dreams are to win the lottery, inherit millions from some uncle they never knew or collect millions from joining a money making opportunity.

The truth is they will actually become lazy, but the reality is that they will not have the money to really be successfully lazy, and the laziness will continue and the money will remain out of reach forever.

It is the universal principle of sowing and reaping. If we don’t work we cannot get the fruit from our labour. If we have the opportunity to work, we should work diligently and if we work a little, we will earn a little. We should all try to work smart, but to reach any degree of success we will need to work.

I have heard it said that if you are not selling you are not growing. I have also heard many people say ‘I am not good at selling’ and ‘I don’t like recruiting my friends’. Do you think anyone really likes selling? No, I can tell you they don’t, but at some time in their lives, they decided that they needed to do some selling to get the results they desired.

There are opportunities that offer you a return on your investment, and you have no further need to recruit. These opportunities sometimes offer a return that is more than you will receive from traditional systems. (If you have enough money to live from your returns, then well done to you because you have worked and you are already wealthy)

The bottom line is if you would like to get ahead and earn enough to become financially free and be wealthy, you are going to need to do some selling and recruiting.

Should you require information on some of the more reliable opportunities that are available, please feel free to contact me at

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Everyone Has a Story in Life

pexels-photo-258605Author: Unknown

A 24-year-old boy looking out from the train’s window shouted…

“Dad, look the trees are going behind!”

Dad smiled, and a young couple sitting nearby looked at the 24-year old’s childish behaviour with pity. Suddenly he again exclaimed…

“Dad, look the clouds are running with us!”

The couple couldn’t resist and said to the old man…

“Why don’t you take your son to a good doctor?” The old man smiled and said…“I did and we are just coming from the hospital, my son was blind from birth, he just got his sight today.”

Every single person on the planet has a story. Don’t judge people before you truly know them. The truth might surprise you.

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The value of Word of Mouth

marketing-man-person-communicationYour opinion matters and you will often get asked if you can recommend a product, service or restaurant for example. The reason this happens is that we have many options and we would rather try something that is recommended, rather than having to experience the disappointment of something mediocre.

We have all heard that word of mouth works, but people will often not talk about something just because they bought a product, used a service or dined at a restaurant. If people simply talk about the fact, they could come across as boasting rather than as recommending.

It’s only when the experience is unusually good or bad that people start talking about you, your product or your service. People notice what is different or different from what they are used to, and this opens up the possibility of a new and interesting experience occurring.

Conventional wisdom says that if you have an excellent product or good service people will talk about you. This wisdom usually works if people are looking for something specific, and the people who have used your product or service will recommend you. A recommendation is good, but you would really like people to talk about their experience so that their friends and colleagues are inspired to use your product or service.

So when will people really be prepared to talk about you? You need a disrupter, the differentiator between you and the rest of your competitors. There must be something that will provide an unforgettable experience. Good can become excellent, but that is still no guarantee that people will talk and give you that valuable ‘word of mouth’ traction you are looking for.

The key is simplicity and duplicity! Gimics, specials and promotions attract people to your product or service, but they do not provide memorable experiences that enable people to tell stories.

Think carefully about the experience that people will have with your brand. Take yourself on their journey and try to imagine what they are experiencing.

Let me give you an example of a recent visit to a local company; this particular company was situated in an industrial area and has a security perimeter with access control. The area outside had long grass and litter in the street, and it was clear that the company thought it was someone else’s responsibility to make their entrance neat and presentable. This leads me to start wondering if they do their own deliveries, or if that was someone’s else’s responsibility too. Before entering the premises I was required to sign the security control register, this was a tatty, dirty book and the pen provided was disgusting, to say the least. I know I should have had my own pen, but I was beginning to wonder if I had made the right decision to visit this company in the first place. Fortunately, the rest of my visit was uneventful. I did what I needed to do and left through the same dirty book procedure I had started with. This was clearly a company that had not thought about my experience, and the lasting impression and the experience I have talked about is probably not one the company had intended for me to have. It is vital to try and experience the customers’ journey and make it better. This is simple really when you take a moment to think.

We should remember that not all experiences will be positive, but we are more likely to be able to solve problems when we have identified potential experiences before our clients do. People develop trust in you when you have the ability to confront the challenges, understand their experiences and sort things out, not just smooth the situation over just to appease them.

When you can authentically accept the negative challenges, and turn them around through understanding and proper customer service, then you have reached a level where not only is your service good but people trust in your ability to provide them and the people they refer to you with an unforgettable experience.

When anybody recommending you has the reassurance that you are not just there to provide a product but rather an experience, and that the person doing the recommending can be sure that they will never be embarrassed because they recommended you, this is the true, valuable ‘word of mouth’.

There is a world waiting to talk about you, I encourage you to think about the experience they will be having with you, your product or the service you offer.

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When … is your time?

screenshot 2019-01-23 at 14.01.05We have all been conditioned to wait, it may have started when we waited to be fed as babies. This taught us to be patient and realise that life works on a routine. It’s never a bad idea to be patient – especially when dealing with others!

Could it be that we were raised in a more traditional environment where children had to be seen and not heard? It’s seldom bad to be a good listener and to learn from old and wise counsel.

We may have needed to wait to be fit enough to be chosen for the sports team and perhaps we needed more practice working on our skills, nevertheless, we needed to wait to be chosen. Sport can teach us many things, but more importantly, it often teaches us that only the best will be chosen and we need the disciplines of practice and time to make it to the top.

Going to schools, colleges and universities taught us to wait, we were often not the best in our class and we needed to accept this. More importantly, the education system taught us to wait for the certificate, degree or professional qualification before advancing. Yes, these are all wonderful disciplines, and I would certainly not like to cross a bridge built by an inexperienced engineer or have an unqualified physician attend to me.

So what’s the problem? These examples above and many more like them teach us to wait, and although these processes teach us valuable lessons, the real question is ‘what are we actually waiting for?’

We all hear people saying some of the following statements: ‘I will do that as soon as …’ and ‘When I have that, I will …’ or even worse ‘Someone will recognise me and give me a break …’

NO … Life is happening while you are waiting, you need to take action today, the action that will lead you down the road to success. Muhammad Ali the great boxer said ‘I am a Champion’ long before he ever won a title fight. He trained like a champion, thought like a champion, spoke like a champion and fought like a champion … and guess what, he was a champion – the world heavyweight champion of the world in 1964, 1974, and 1978. So even when he got knocked down, he kept coming back for fourteen years still believing his own words ‘I am a Champion’.

muhammad-aliYou have everything you need to be the champion in your area of influence. Don’t wait for someone to give you the big break. The reality is people will only recognise you when you believe you are the champion. You need to get your intention clear, set your goals and start doing what champions do … Champions think, work and fight with the intention that they are the best, they are not waiting to be the best.

Again … You have everything inside you to be a champion, you don’t need to wait, but if you think you can stand on others and use them along the way you will never be a champion, you will just be a gangster! The world needs real champions, who are prepared to use their strengths and talents to be an example, to make effective and meaningful change in the world.

YOU are the next champion, yes you the person in the mirror … Your time is now!

If not now, then when?

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Emotional Validation

I just had a really interesting meeting with a new associate. They mentioned the need to always make the correct impression regardless of what is really happening in our lives. Yes, whether things are great or our lives are falling apart, we need to project the right image. This may seem obvious to some, but others may view this as being fake. The reality is colleagues and strangers don’t need to know everything about us – after all the perception they have of us is the reality for them.

smilies-bank-sit-rest-160731Why do we try to portray our lives as being different to what they are? What would we like our lives to be?

We all have the need for recognition, in fact, recognition is the single thing we need the most in our lives. Recognition gives us the sense of belonging needed as communal beings. The more recognition we get the better we feel about ourselves and then we are able to thrive.

However, if we are desperate for recognition we can find it anywhere, and this often gets us the kind of recognition that we are not looking for. What other people think of you has nothing to do with you. Of course, if you let their opinions affect you, you could suffer emotional defeat. Recognition and validation from people whom you respect and admire are what you need. Emotional validation is also a human requirement.

Where to find the right Emotional Validation – Real authentic emotional validation can only come from people who truly love you. Those who love you will not hurt you, and they have the ability to build you emotionally. Don’t bother looking for it anywhere as you will only get it from friends and family who truly value you as an individual.

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